Back to Basics?

I’m having a real think about whether or not to carry on with this blogging and twittering lark. Its a result of going on holiday where we had no Internet access and the computer wasn’t just sat there in the corner of the room. I couldn’t pop over to it to catch up vicariously on peoples lives or to write a bit here and there. I felt like I was freed from its grip, the temptation wasn’t there, I spoke to my husband. Although he managed to play Championship Manager a lot of the time, so he may or may not have been listening to me.

I have to say that, I really, really love blogging, it has been a feature of having kids. I’ve met some brilliant people, Ive got some great stuff to review. However, I do think that recently its become a bit more competitive than it used to be. I can’t say that I’m not disappointed for not getting into any of these top lists EVER. The fact is that I am. I get a fair few hits, lots of requests from PR firms. Even the chance to review a few different web-sites sites pre-launch. However, the main-stay of my writing work has always been academic stuff through my job. Magazine articles, dull, dull highly academic articles, a book, exhibition panels and lectures so boring that I often wonder mid-stream if I’ve already spoken about something. Yes, they do seem to go down well. But I don’t want to do them anymore.

I think perhaps, the reason that I’m having these thoughts is that I’m due to have an operation in a few weeks and I’m reassessing parts of my life. I feel the urge to chuck out lots of stuff and I want to create a really good impression of motherhood, in my kids minds. Just in case. I don’t want them to remember me sitting at the computer. I want them to remember me playing with them, showing them how to do stuff, do doing domestic things. Its not that I don’t do this, its more that I do seem to spend an increasing amount of time at the computer. Have I become addicted to blogging and the Internet? No, but I do enjoy the camaraderie of talking to other adults during the sometimes painfully long days with a toddler and baby.

So, the question at the moment is whether to move the computer upstairs to the study, blog very occasionally, give up totally and do other more homely type things and actually read a book or just put this down as a little phase I’m going through. Should I go back to basics? Don’t feel obliged to comment, I’m having a bad day.


16 Responses

  1. Mummy Whisperer 8th July 2009 / 3:30 pm

    I know what you mean. Life has been much easier for me, since I focussed my work on 1 niche, so all my work is basically halved, including the blogging. So now on my &#39;days off&#39;, I feel much more present with my little one<br>I&#39;m not totally convinced that you are done with it totally though! But definitely dump it for a while if it feels &#39;heavy&#39; – I don&#39;t recommend

  2. slugsontherefrigerator 8th July 2009 / 4:08 pm

    I understand what you mean and I can&#39;t say that I don&#39;t often feel like you do.<br><br>I think that Mummy Whisperer is right, you have to have a hard look at what it brings to your life and what it takes away. You say that most of your writing work is not stimulating you. If you gave up blogging, what would that mean to where you are getting your creative stimulation? Could you write &

  3. The Dotterel 8th July 2009 / 6:25 pm

    Oh, don&#39;t give up ZA! We&#39;d miss you. But – as Mummy Whisperer just said – if it&#39;s getting &#39;heavy&#39;, if it isn&#39;t fun then, yes – pull the plug. It&#39;s only a blog, after all. Sometimes it&#39;s easy to forget that, especially as mummy/daddy bloggers have begun attracting some attention. I started blogging just over a year ago to keep distant family up-to-date with Charlie&

  4. Garden Mum 8th July 2009 / 8:52 pm

    Your blog is a great record of your life as a Mummy. Remember Toddler Boy&#39;s second birthday and how you read back over the first two years of his life. How much did you laugh and smile when you read it back? How many difficult situations had you written about and resolved by putting them in words?<br><br>For Mums, blogging is our way of keeping in touch with the world and finding

  5. Cafe Bebe 8th July 2009 / 9:09 pm

    I just found you…don&#39;t want to miss your wonderful writing! But as others have said, if it&#39;s too much and you&#39;re re-evaluating, then do what&#39;s best for you. You might find, that after a break, you&#39;ll unleash a new creative side. Or, just write the blog as a personal journal for yourself…in draft…you can take a &quot;sabbatical&quot; and keep drafts and one day post

  6. miss leslieanne 8th July 2009 / 10:43 pm

    Definitely know what you mean – it scares me the panic I get into whenever our internet goes down &#39;no web access? end of the world!!&#39; – which of course it isn&#39;t – but it&#39;s all too easy to get dependent on the cyber world – i&#39;ve started making myself have no-log-on days for that very reason.<br><br>as for the blogging – why not make it a once a week thing? or a couple of

  7. Brit in Bosnia / Fraught Mummy 9th July 2009 / 5:37 am

    I&#39;d miss you if you stopped. But I think that moving the computer upstairs is a good idea and one I&#39;m considering at the moment. Sitting just there it is such a temptation – oh, I&#39;ll just check my email/stats/other peoples blogs/comments. Doesn&#39;t need to be done every hour, and I now turn the computer right off when I&#39;m not consciously sitting down to use it and find that

  8. Coding Mamma (Tasha) 9th July 2009 / 6:12 am

    Hmm… Well, I just need to reiterate what others have said. If you&#39;re not enjoying it, take a step back. Change your blogging habits and/or think about what you do want to get out of it. If it becomes a chore then it&#39;s no good, really. I have gone through periods when I change the times I do blogging – for a while I was doing far too much while in charge of Rosemary and so moved it

  9. Vic 9th July 2009 / 10:43 am

    It would be a shame to lose you, but if it&#39;s the way you decide to go, you&#39;ve gotta do what&#39;s right for you.<br>I&#39;d wait until after the op – you never know how you&#39;ll feel after one of those things, and if anything, it&#39;ll give you more time to think things over. <br>And you know, if you do decide to chuck it in, you can always come back!

  10. Metropolitan Mum 9th July 2009 / 12:15 pm

    Oh C, this really sounds like you&#39;re having a bad day. Don&#39;t quit, I would miss you, and lists don&#39;t say much anyway. There are lots of things you could do to raise the amount of readers, but do you really want to go down the commercial road? <br>This is supposed to be fun. Take a break if it isn&#39;t fun at the moment, but please come back then and let us know what you&#39;ve been

  11. clareybabble 9th July 2009 / 1:14 pm

    Don&#39;t go! I love your blog. I&#39;m the most paranoid worrier out there and I always think my blog is a pile of crap! I also feel guilty if I haven&#39;t caught up with all the blogs I follow. I can see how you&#39;re feeling. I&#39;m trying to limit it to times when the kids are asleep/at playgroup and a couple of evenings a week. I&#39;ve found I really look forward to it. <br>Hope you&#39;

  12. Womanatwork 9th July 2009 / 2:19 pm

    First of all good luck with your operation, it could be good blog fodder! <br><br>I too know exactly what you mean especially about the competition aspect. I used to compare myself to people with hundreds of followers and wonder what they&#39;d got that I hadn&#39;t. I was also desperate to get on the Tots 100 list. Now frankly my dear I&#39;ve stopped giving a shit. I write what I want, when I

  13. Muddling Along Mummy 9th July 2009 / 3:06 pm

    Do you think that separating your family time and your computer / work time would help – I find that it doesn&#39;t take much for the computer to take over so I have to be determined to have time when I&#39;m fully focused on Toddlergirl / Mr MAM / life and not distracted by other things<br><br>I love your blog – its great but don&#39;t let that sway you <br><br>And best of luck with the op

  14. cartside 9th July 2009 / 6:02 pm

    It&#39;s all been said already (I actually had 24 hours without internet). You know I would miss your writing. But at the end of the day it&#39;s what you decide is best for you. I know the feeling about the competetiveness. The great thing about blogging though is that it gives everyone a voice, and we can do with it what we like. That includes a break. I really like your writing, and often that

  15. Laura - Are We Nearly There Yet Mummy? 10th July 2009 / 11:57 am

    We moved recently and our office is now up 3 flights of stairs. Before it was on the ground floor and too accessible!<br><br>Now I have to make time to blog rather than make time for the kids. Jobs get done and everyone is happier.<br><br>Please don&#39;t give up completely!

  16. Perfectly Happy Mum 12th July 2009 / 12:24 pm

    Oh No! Don&#39;t go!! I am catching up on blogs, having left it aside for a little while for other stuff and like you I am wondering if it is starting to take over my life… The thing is that you are right, would spending too much time on the computer affect our mummy duties…? I don&#39;t really know, I am as confused as you are… I just need this stuff! and i&#39;ll tell you why I need it,

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