He has a six month old little sister, who receives virtually no attention apart from when she is being fed and her nappy is changed. He chooses what to wear, what he eats and what the family watches on the television. He fights over brushing his teeth every night. He has taken over the best seat on the sofa and demands constant attention. He is both the apple of my eye and the thorn in my side.
I am fed up of him, I want my life back and I want him to do as he is told.
Help.
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Poor you. I totally sympathise with your situation. I think you just have to be very, very patient. Keep being firm and consistent. Try not to give attention for 'bad' behaviour and praise good behaviour. There is some good advise in the comments section of my Toddler Tantrums post, when I cried 'help' a few days ago. FP is going through the Terrible Twos/new baby thing too. Good luck!
Brace your self you're not going to like this, they don't get better! They just change with age and find different ways to annoy (wait till they're teenagers you'll wish for those idilic days when they were sweet toddlers). You like me had a life before children and it's hard to be dictated to by a toddler, they don't even understand compromise. But the good days always outweigh the bad. I wasn't good with small children but once I could have conversations with them and discuss things they became a pleasure. Their not little for long and the next couple of years will fly by, hang on in there!
How can he choose what's on TV or who sits where? He's a lot smaller than you. :)
poor you, there is nothing worse than a stubbon toddler. My 21month old is going through a stubbon patch too shes been crying and putting up a fight every night going to bed for 4nights now. She demands my attention 24/7 and follows me whining and crying if I can't give her what she wants straight away.
The best advice I can give is that it is a phase, it will pass.
It is probably an attention thing so try ignore his bad behaviour and praise him loads when he's good. Consistency is the key, be firm and stay strong.
Once you have broke the 'circle' of hes bad, you get mad, he gets attention, hes bad again everything will calm down.
Hope you feel better soon, and remember things can only get better xxxx
Not great by the sound of things. When our boys played up I used to try and think of something - anything really, often quite amusing or zany - to break the pattern of bad behaviour. Something to give fresh start.
Hang tough.
Toddlers are tough , you think its bad now - just wait till baby is older and you have the two of them thinking there in charge . Maybe thats not what you want to hear ..
No idea on the walking thing , different situation but my eldest was in hospital last summer and once she was better refused to walk for a few weeks . She had been in a coma so her legs were weak but she just would not even try and everyone was getting worried , over time though she slowly started again .
I'm no supernanny, but feel for you after a day of toddler tantrums (one age 3, 2 aged 2, one aged 1), all of them small in comparison, but striking how the tiniest thing can set off hours of crying and whinging.
I tend to first acknowledge toddler's anger, then explain my position, ignore the tantrum and talk about something different, without much fuss.
It works for my daughter (but her attention is easily diverted - good for forgetting tantrums, bad for attention span and focussing on anything), but not for nephew. Which proves nothing.
I know nothing about babies, but I know that if he's making you feel like that it must be hard. Be firm. Be consistent. Don't let him have his own way. Wishing you lots of luck with it xx
Terrible two's and a little man! Aah!
Be firm. You're the boss.
Poor Zoo, I've been there and if I was paid a million quid I wouldnt go back!
It will pass, be strong - you CAN do it. RMxx
oh don't you just love little boys. Junior was quite good as a 2 year old but the bossy tantrum behaviour all started at 3 for us (probably more to do with having a baby brother than age). I'm no supernanny either (having been known to have the odd tantrum myself) but just try and hang in there and also choose your battles.
To me, it doesn't really matter what Junior wears as long as he has some clothes on. I try and give him as many choices as I can for the things that don't really matter. I also try and give him only 2 or 3 options (ie do you want cereal or toast ... the red or the blue cup etc.) that way he feels he is in control of some of the things in his life and I still have the energy for the important things (like you don't hit your baby brother).
When Junior dig his heals in about going somewhere, I find "well you can stay here while bub and I go and do ..." works wonders for me but then I think I'm even more stubborn than junior. Good luck!
Repeat the Mummy mantra after me, 'this too shall pass' and best wishes that it passes very soon
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