And then I cried, a lot

I was quite hard on toddler boy following my trip back to the hospital where I was told that there was categorically nothing wrong with his foot. I tried to make him walk, I put him on the naughty step and I put his food, just out of reach, so he had to walk there. Hubby came home and Toddler boy went back to the naughty step, basically until he would walk. He didn’t and I told the hubby to relent and let him have his dinner. Feeling absolutely browned off with it all, I went to bed.

The background to this is that Toddler boy is incredibly strong willed, from 3 weeks old he has held his breath and passed out. It is now a behavioural thing and although it frightens me I can deal with it. It does, however, mean that he can manipulate me in a very powerful way. This week, following the experts advice I really began to feel that I was being manipulated in yet another way.

Anyhow, Toddler boy steadfastly refused to walk, so we decided that hubby could try the hospital one more time. As luck would have it the consultant paediatrician happened to be sitting at the nurses station twiddling his thumbs. He took the case on. After some discussion, it appeared that it is very common for toddlers to be able to walk on fractures. Toddler boy was sent for an x- ray. Yes, the double hard boy actually has 3 fractured metatarsals. Like Roy Keene, Stuart Pearce and Beckham before him, who all managed to play football with similar injuries. He has simply not been extreme enough in his complaining. His foot is now in plaster.

I feel a mixture of emotions; relieved that the little fella wasn’t mucking me about in a really extreme way. But overall, I feel terrible guilt. I feel like the worlds most wicked woman, like a terrible mother. I hope he forgives me. Yet again, I have found, at his expense that you simply cannot trust a word that a doctor says.


16 Responses

  1. slugsontherefrigerator 1st August 2009 / 2:17 pm

    oooh, poor you and poor him. you cannot feel guilty. Your instincts did tell you that something was wrong, which is why you kept going back. Well done you for being persistent and having your own strong will. <br><br>I hope you have a big glass of wine in your hand (or painkillers if you still need them).

  2. cartside 1st August 2009 / 2:27 pm

    It&#39;s not your fault! After all, it was the doctor who should be able to tell who didn&#39;t spot it! Horrible though that this can happen… Don&#39;t get me started on this topic.<br><br>He&#39;s a big boy, so I&#39;m sure if you explain to him he&#39;ll understand, and lots of cuddles and tlc will show him that he&#39;s very loved.

  3. jen 1st August 2009 / 3:10 pm

    You poor things…..I hope you are both on the mend!

  4. Sandy Calico 1st August 2009 / 5:16 pm

    As I always say:<br>Just because someone is in a job, it doesn&#39;t mean that they can do the job.<br>Unfortunately this is as true of medicine as it is of every job.<br>Get well soon little man x

  5. Rebel Mother 1st August 2009 / 6:17 pm

    Good grief woman, what is going on here?<br><br>At least you finally found out what is going on….dont blame yourself. You are a fab mum.<br><br>I have a little something for you over at mine, it might take your mind off things. Love RMxx

  6. Muddling Along Mummy 1st August 2009 / 6:44 pm

    Don&#39;t feel guilty – its an incredibly hard one to get spotted (I had three fractures in my foot missed just before Christmas) and you kept going back until it was sorted out<br><br>Hope he recovers quickly

  7. Anonymous 1st August 2009 / 7:26 pm

    You&#39;re not the first and you won&#39;t be the last, a friend of a friend had the same thing with a toddler&#39;s broken leg (food out of reach etc) and my mother-in-law did it with my hubby when he was 6, a broken wrist. These things For some reason, can&#39;t log into my google account to comment,it&#39;s All Grown Upx

  8. Hannah 1st August 2009 / 7:35 pm

    Poor little man. I hope his foot heals quickly. It&#39;s definitely not your fault – you kept going back and saying something was wrong.<br><br>I hope you&#39;re recovering well from your surgery too.

  9. Kat 1st August 2009 / 8:45 pm

    What a palaver! I hope you have said goodbye to the guilt and your little one is lapping up the extra cuddles. xx

  10. Really Rachel 1st August 2009 / 8:49 pm

    Oh gosh, you must feel awful. But you know, you did your best and he will certainly forgive and forget. Now, I wish you both a speedy recovery!

  11. Coding Mamma (Tasha) 1st August 2009 / 9:24 pm

    Don&#39;t feel guilty! It&#39;s completely understandable that you would think he was trying it on, given the background. Thank goodness the consultant was available this time, though, but awful they didn&#39;t X-ray it before. <br><br>There&#39;s an award for you over at my place, btw.

  12. Bullajabbar 2nd August 2009 / 4:34 am

    Be glad you don&#39;t live in America where you would have had to pay a fortune for those doctors to have told you nothing was wrong when there was.<br><br>I am glad everything was figured out in the end. 🙂

  13. Café Bébé 2nd August 2009 / 6:04 am

    You are a wonderful Mummy and don&#39;t you question that for one second. The NHS is the &quot;bad mummy&quot;. Don&#39;t get me started… I hope you BOTH are taking care and will be feeling better soon. Big hugs from Cambridgeshire!<br>:) Karin at CafĂ© BĂ©bĂ©

  14. Amy 2nd August 2009 / 7:33 am

    poor little thing how could the doctors have missed that????? Don&#39;t feel bad you were just doing as the doctors had said and how were you to know. Hope you and him feel better soon (big hug) xxxxx

  15. Garden Mum 2nd August 2009 / 6:32 pm

    Can Garden Girl come and sign his cast? I am sure all the attention he will be getting now from everyone who sees his foot in plaster will wipe away any memory of his time on the naughty step. Loved your post on the history of breastfeeding.

  16. Grit 6th August 2009 / 9:27 pm

    cripes. your tale does nothing for my anti-institutional streak, you know! i feel &#39;trust your own instincts and your own child&#39; is the message here, above all others, and be wary of anyone who comes along with qualifications or says they know what&#39;s best for you! and i hope both you and the sore leg are feeling better!

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