Then yesterday an email popped into the box. Upto 80% off Frugi sale. Frugi are one of my favouritest clothes shops. For my children. They sell nice ethical, organic clothing. Some of it can be a little bit twee, but on the whole its lovely. 80% off, another cold sweat. I. MUST. SHOP. After all, the children don't already have so many clothes their wardroobes are bursting at the seams, thanks mainly to my lovely friends Louise and Jenni. But 80% off. Anyway, the upshot of his was a £70 spend. Lots of things for next year, so that justifies it. Think, I'm saving hundreds of pounds.
This brings me to the real point of this blog. Why can I not justify spending anything on myself at all? Not even a chocolate bar. BUT, I can spend hundreds of pounds over the course of the year on clothes, toys, magazines and books for my children. I don't think I am alone. I know plenty of bag ladies whose children are dressed in designer togs and travel in the poshest of prams. It's one of those parenting Guilty Secrets and something I need to tackle. From this moment on, expenditure will be on ME, ME, ME (with a little bit on the hubby- but he is more interested in brewing real ale and watching football anyhow)...
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I feel your pain Mrs. The other weekend we went to an outlet mall and hubby got £100 worth of work clothes as he really did need them. I was jealous as there's really no reason for me to have anything except for the fact that nothing fits properly and I feel like a schlump. I spend virtually everything on Little Miss and hardly anything on me and it gets a bit annoying some times. Amazing what happens when you become a mummy!
Karin
I'm exactly the same, will spend spend on the kids, but never on me
same here... only time I ever spend anything on me is when I REALLY need it... and that after suffering a bit...
what's wrong in this sentence??? :)
Ahem. I would love to join the chorus and sing a little 'oh yes, me too, I feel your pain'-song. But since I posted about being worse dressed than my baby, I am doing very well. I am spending money on myself. I am taking time off, pay the babysitter and go to Starbucks. My daughter still loves me and after a few hours completely for myself, I have new energy and enthusiasm looking after her.
Let me know if you want to go clothes hunting anytime soon. I am a good private shopper. Unless you are afraid of bold colours...
xxx Deborah
Oh I so know where you're coming from.
I talked myself out of buying a top for a FIVER in a a sale the other day.
It was pretty, but I reasoned that a. £5 = half a pack of nappies, and b. i hardly ever go out now, so can probably live without another sequinned vest.
Practical, yes. Bit boring though :(
*and* i spent all my boots points on baby clothes rather than stupidly expensive make up!! What's going on??
Ok, so within sensible limits (i.e not getting into debt, or partying like a teenager), I believe it is wise for us Mums to put ourselves first.
So I would recommend sitting down and thinking ....
- why would it be good for the kids if I bought some new clothes - e.g. does it provide them with a good example, will it actually make a difference to your confidence levels?
- why would it also be best for hubby if you bought something - that's easy, cos if you feel good about yourself, you are bound to be more 'fun' to be around!
- it might even help out at work, or the school car park (humans are undoubtedly shallow, and there isn't much point in us fighting that as 'first impressions' etc do count).
- think about the future, and what might happen if you don't start taking the little step of at least thinking about putting yourself first every now and again. There is the terrible possibility that you could end up one of those miserable martyred mums, telling their kids how they 'sacrificed' everything for them.
So I'm not suggesting you work too hard at my ideas and spend hundreds and hundreds of pounds. But if you could list enough reasons, to give yourself permission to have a good general basic wardrobe that you are always happy to be seen wearing, then that would be fab!
xxx
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