I make no secret of the fact that I have no end of trouble dealing with the boy. It started from birth really with his breath-holding and all that. Recently things have escalated to epic proportions of violence and attitude and it’s difficult to know what to do, where to turn or even how to empathise with him. So when I heard about a special parenting course which helps mums to understand and deal with their boys under five, I thought I had better sign up.
One session down and I realise that I am not the only one having issues. I am also filled with interesting facts. Did you know that it takes three weeks for a boy to establish a behaviour whether good or bad? This means that you can mould them, with a little with perseverance. I wonder whether this works on husbands too?
Anyhow, apparently we are to be given a booklet on how to discipline boys. I had a little search of the Internet and I have actually found it here. This booklet runs through 17 techniques to use with boys. These are as simple as actually making sure they hear you by putting your hand on their shoulder and making eye contact when you speak with them. Boys also respond very well to commands, use as few works as possible with them. They like to know where they stand and what they are doing.
One of the things which seems to be working for the school run is simply to get him up and tell him what we are going to be doing throughout the whole day. I don’t give him more than two choices, there are no arguments or discussions I don’t enter into them. It’s still grim, but its better.