The news that women will be allowed to opt for a C-Section is to me, frankly disturbing. Yes, I have a fear of needles and hospitals and all that entails, so that probably doesn’t help. However, I cant help but think that the absolute best outcome if at all possible is to be born naturally and for a mother to allow her body to behave as nature intended. It’s not that I am some kind of earth mother, however I cant help but think that it must be better for a child to follow the route they were destined to go along rather than be hoicked out under the glare of bright light bulbs. Unless it is unavoidable.
I am not in anyway undermining those women who have had C-Sections. I commend them as brave, strong individuals. However, I just cannot understand why you would want to go through that by choice rather than medical necessity.
When I had my two children, I found that the experience was varied. With boy there was a degree of medical intervention which left me traumatised to this day. With Fifi the birth was directed by one experienced midwife who was kind, patient and knew how to deal with childbirth. I walked out of the hospital on the same day with my daughter and didn’t look back.
That’s the thing, if you give birth naturally, you may bear some mental scars but you wont have the physical ones which leave you unable to do many of the daily tasks which you take for granted. Friends of mine who had C-Sections were stuck at home for weeks afterwards, unable to even push the pram. Is it worth it for a day of your life?
Now, I’m not going to be mercenary about this, if I need an emergency C-Section then so be it. However, it is not something that I want. I want to be able to drive my car, push the pram and after all, I have 2 other children who need looking after. I cant flop about on the sofa, I don’t have anyone to look after me all day long. I cant even bear to look at the scar from when I had a mole removed.
Why would you opt for an operation unless it was a medical necessity? Seems rather bizarre to me. It also seems odd that in this day and age where I get four midwife appointments throughout my entire pregnancy due to staffing levels and cutbacks, that the money can be found from somewhere to enable people to actually choose this operation. An operation that might not be necessary. Sod the lack of funding for altzheimers drugs, the lack of incubators in Special Care Baby Units and so on. I imagine that most people wont even be considering the impact that their costly operation might have on others needing NHS care. But it’s all about principals isn’t it.
At the end of the day the most important thing is that mother and baby are safe. I know of at least one person that died following a C-Section. It is not the easy way out. I hope this will be drilled into mothers as they are offered the option and that many keep their options open, leaving the decision to the medical experts rather than the whim of what their favourite celebrity has just done.