Reading today in the paper about the fact you can get hold of the morning after pill over the phone I found myself slightly confused and for once, unable to form an opinion easily. You see, a few years ago I would have said this was terrible, why aren’t young people practising safe sex and so forth. However, a few years ago I was really struggling to have a baby. It didn’t seem so easy to have one. I couldn’t ever imagine taking a pill to sort things out. Now, as a mum of a girl, I would urge my daughter to take this if she felt she might need to, and to be honest, I think that perhaps this campaign is actually a good idea. It saves the trauma of potential abortion or the life changing results of having a baby.
Let me spell out my situation now, I’m having a third baby, a baby I didn’t even realise I was pregnant with for a couple of months. I have no idea when this baby was conceived, whether we were drunk or what. To be perfectly honest, it just happened. Don’t get me wrong, I cant wait to have this baby. It is already loved and wanted. It will bring joy to our lives and was certainly meant to be. But it did cross my mind whether we were doing the right thing. I agonised for ages about what we should do before making, what was in my opinion, the only option for us.
That’s the thing isn’t it? Stuff does just happen. Life happens, yes, you can get carried away, but sometimes you don’t think long term. ‘Live for the moment’ is one of my friends favourite sayings, it’s good advice and has served her well. It is something I find very hard to do, but something I am working on.
This brings me to the inevitable post birth midwife chat where we will be quizzed about our contraceptive choices. I’m not keen on drugs at all, I haven’t taken the pill ever and I wouldn’t want to take the morning after pill if I could help it. I don’t think we could manage any more children, financially or emotionally, but we are yet to have this conversation. So that places the emphasis on the husband really doesn’t it. He probably wont appreciate opinions, but part of me thinks that he has no other option than a little snip…