One of my Twitter and blogging friends is Lisa, otherwise known as the Mummy Whisperer. I first came across Lisa as part of our local NCT email list where local mums angst about things. This is a brilliant resource, as you don’t have to be an NCT member to use the list. Then, recently when I was having a bit of a blogging crisis, she helped me via Twitter. She always offers brilliant advice and is very helpful. Despite living within a couple of miles of each other, we had never actually met in real life. So, you can imagine how pleased I was to be given the chance to attend one of her Mummy Whisperer workshops.
The workshops look at how you can improve your way of thinking about being a mummy. They help to give you confidence, change the way you think about yourself and others and help you with decision making. Since I often find it virtually impossible to make decisions about the children and their welfare, I’m a terrible martyr and I do find that the daily grind gets me down, I was hoping for some good techniques. I also thought that a day without the kids would be a gift in itself! Techniques, advice and general reassurance about being a mum were plentiful at the workshop. It was all a bit of a revelation to me and to be honest, as I’m a bit sceptical about such thing, surprisingly helpful!
One of the things we did was to really analyse my values, this was to make sure that I was actually getting enough out of life for myself. After all, a happy, mum is a happy baby! Once you have analysed yourself and thought about ways to improve your life, you then go onto doing this for each of your family members. As it helps to understand where they are coming from. I have to say I have found this incredibly useful, it took me a few evenings to actually sit down and think about it properly. However, following some discussions with the hubby, I think I understand him more than I ever did. I have also thought about the children and this has helped me to manage the toddlers behaviour. I have considered what his likes, wants and needs are and now I can plan activities around this. I can also use my understanding of him to effectively discipline him, something which I struggle with.
I don’t want to reveal all the Mummy Whisperer’s secrets, to find out more you can visit her web-site. Lets be realistic, this little bit of rather unique life coaching hasn’t changed my life. However, I think I can say that personally I have genuinely benefited. I feel more confident in my mummy-ing. I have managed to grab a few minutes in the day to myself, the hubby and the toddler feel as if they are valued, as they have things to do around the house. But perhaps most importantly of all, I have actually stopped comparing myself to others. For the first time in a long time, I feel happy about where I am. I am proud of my daily achievements and I feel a little bit more equipped to deal with the ups and downs of everyday life. I had a lovely time at the workshop and met some really interesting people. Thank you Lisa!
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